Recently, a friend called and gleefully told me she had just gained admission into the University of Manchester. Baby girl asked if I had any tips for her.
Er, after spending nine months here, if I don’t have any “words of wisdom” for someone coming from Nigeria, we should be dialing Houston because we’d have a problem!
Here is an adaptation of the letter I sent her:
1. Make sure you buy one of those tiny pocketbooks with locks to store the one billion passwords you’ll be given! Coming from a country where the only passwords I had were for my email, social networks and bank accounts, it was a challenge to have to learn different logins for my university account, printing, library account, and even the Student Union website.
2. Buy a thesaurus! Not because you can not converse in passable English, but because you will constantly need to define the words “reflect” and “evaluate,” which are the operative words for most of the reports you will be asked to write. On my first report, my tutor said I didn’t reflect enough. I changed my approach, only to get feedback on another report that I “over-reflected” and my work was chatty. Can you imagine my confusion?
3. Maybe this should have been number one because it directly affects everything else you do. Ever heard the term “extreme weather?” It is cold! Oh, my word, IT IS COLD! During winter, it gets so cold sometimes I climb into bed, bury myself under my duvet and cry! Cry because, draped in stockings, socks, thermal underwear, and several layers of clothing, I’m still cold! Coming from a country where our coldest temperature hovers between 12 and 18 degrees Centigrade, having to live in -14 degrees wasn’t a joke at all! I live in a flat owned by the university so they pre-set the heating to stay on all day but go off at 11:30 each night, even during winter! I had a panic attack one night when I woke up in the middle of the night and felt like I was literally going to die! In fairness, last winter was the worst the United Kingdom has seen in twenty years; just wonder why it had to happen in my time!
4. Brace yourself. I’m giggling, because I didn’t have anyone to tell me about this, and was constantly embarrassed whenever I saw it. What am I talking about? PDA – Public Displays of Affection. They’re everywhere — on buses, trains, in parks, at the mall, on the street, even in the library! You would think that young people would try to justify the fees they’ve paid by utilizing the time spent in the library productively but nooooo; it’s just another bedroom! That first day, I watched the urchins in the library, smiled and played out the same scenario in Nigeria (if anyone there had the nerve to try it)! An older person would reprimand them, send them out of the library, then inform the parents of both parties!
5. Don’t be afraid/ashamed/too proud to ask questions, be it in class, the mall, post office, clinic, even on the street (just make sure the person is uniform). My tutors are the nicest people ever, and I think it’s a prerequisite for employment at the university for all employees to be helpful. I know how many times I’ve received help, especially in my early days when I couldn’t get around much on my own. My questions are answered so kindly, and even when I know the person would rather not, they still do it with a smile.
I interrupt this list to announce that the original letter I sent to my girl ended only when I ran out of ink (some 600 pages later). If my memory serves me right, Lois asked for an article, not a book (yet) so I’ll do all of us a favour and fast forward to the last point.
1. The university brochure said the plan was to make me a social media consultant both in title and in deed. They were right; eight months into the course, I’m confident of my abilities! Although it’s sad to admit, that’s the major difference about studying here; you can take their words to the bank!
So, this is the verdict: while I miss my family, friends, and the life I had in Nigeria, I’ve settled in nicely. The opportunities here for practical learning are enormous! I love it!
Balkiss says
Very nice delivery and humorous. I’m not at all surprised, Chioma knows how to put pen to paper. Go girl!
Demola says
Very funny piece, but its got valuable information for a “freshie”.
Tosin says
You have nailed it once again, I’m not surprised!
Funmi O says
This is really lovely, I didn’t wanted it end. Your style of writting really brings to life what is being writen and puts a picture in my head of what is going on, which is why I love it
Babs says
Chioma is my friend (Yes, I’m famzing).
I laughed all through this piece. Go girl! Gold is still available.
Chief Sista says
This is beautiful and quirky! I love it!!!
Abi says
Nice write up. didnt want it to end. Thats reality on paper. U go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Isaacbillion says
I love your writings Chioma. Very educative for me especially since I plan coming over there soon. Please we need more from you. Cheers
Eze Eze says
Hahahaha! Spot on Chioma and absolutely funny! Who could have found a better way to talk about issues like this if not Chioma? Every single word she drops on the paper is worth reading…
Amina.M says
Aw, poor you! Well, look on the bright side, summers nigh! Nice piece as usual, Chioma.Very real. Will keep that password thingy in mind.
Goodness says
chioma you are full of inspiration every word you wrote make meaning to me so go a head and make Nigeria proud.
Naomi Lucas says
I know her, yay! lol. Nice Chioma, very.
Abang Mercy says
Hey Chioma, am so proud of you and i am glad you are doing pretty well. Your note has given me the tips i have always wanted to school abroad. Love you dearie