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the fringe hours: making time for you

The Fringe Hours

Although the holiday craziness is over, in some ways this time of year is even busier. We’re trying to start 2016 off right by running to the gym, organizing our closets and signing up for classes.

But what we often forget in our desire for self-improvement is that one of the best things we can do for ourselves is slow down and take time to do the things we want to do rather than the things we think we should do.

“Yeah, right,” you’re thinking. “Like there’s even 10 minutes in the day to do that.”

I hear you. And that’s why I jumped at the chance to review The Fringe Hours Collection from (in)courage, Hallmark and Revell books.

Created by Jessica N. Turner, founder of The MomCreative.com, this beautiful collection is grounded in a practical guidebook, The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You, and a thought-provoking little workbook, My Fringe Hours: Discovering a More Creative and Fulfilled Life.

My Fringe Hours

What I love about them is that Turner’s philosophy, which is expressed in the opening quote by Charles Bixton, “You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it,” is not a call to add more activities to your day. In fact, she comes right out and says it’s “not about doing more.” It’s about using your time to live the life you want.

As an empty nester, I’m finding this easier to accomplish. There’s more time to read, to have lunch with friends, to treat myself to a massage. It’s too bad we don’t learn this earlier because, as flight attendants always tell you, it’s important to put on your own oxygen mask before you can effectively help anyone else.

The Fringe Hours collection is all about self-care and making the time for it. With Turner’s tips and thought-provoking questions, it’s not as difficult as you think.

I downloaded her free time tracker — which you should do, too — to see how I was spending my time last week and was shocked to realize just how much time I spent on social media. Now, I know I rationalize this as “work,” but if I’m being totally honest, all that time pinning pretty pictures and watching puppy videos is not helping my business. More importantly, although it’s fun and relaxing for many hours a day a few minutes, it’s not helping me live the life I want. It’s just a time sucker. Time that could be used for things that are more meaningful for me

There are some great products that are also featured in this collection, like this To Do List pad, which makes list-making much more fun.

The Fringe Hours priority list

There are inspiring postcards to send your friends or just tape to your mirror.

The Fringe Hours postcards

And there are these greeting cards and this pretty little pouch.

The Fringe Hours greeting cards

I think that card on top nails it since so many women make what they do look so easy, they never get the acknowledgement they deserve. Imagine how happy you would feel to get this in the mail.

This week, Amazon is offering The Fringe Hours e-book for just $2.99 so you may want to download it nowYou can find the whole collection of products on DaySpring.

Because I see you and really want to encourage all of you to make time for yourself, I’m going to be giving away some of these products to lucky Midlife at the Oasis subscribers. (If you’re not a subscriber, first sign up for my weekly newsletter in the right sidebar of this page.)

For a chance to win, simply “like” this post leave a comment below. For a second chance, tweet this:

Contest ends on January 17 at midnight Pacific time. Winners will be notified by return email. Prizes can only be sent to a U.S. mailing address.


  1. Robin (Masshole Mommy) says:

    I always make time for me. I am a better mom and wife because of it.

  2. This makes me giddy, because it’s precisely where I am. I’ve started writing first thing in the morning because I needed to find a dedicated time in my day. It’s hard, but it’s doable, and I’m hoping it gets easier the longer I stick to it. And sharing good thoughts and inspiration with friends is always fun to do, especially when they aren’t expecting it.

  3. My hand is up for this giveaway! And I am so with you with learning these lessons later in life. Wonderful post, Lois, I am intrigued by the book and all the accessories too.

  4. I have seen so much about this book and the accessories in the past few days. I really want to check it out.

  5. Making time for myself is hard as I don’t’ drive so I Can’t just take off. That said I do try to get out for a daily walk just to breath.

  6. The older I get, the more I realize how important it is to take time for me. I love the postcards…what great reminders to enjoy life each day.

  7. I would probably be horrified at how much time I waste wasting time. If that makes sense. Well, no “probably” about it! Sounds like a scary exercise–how i hate being held accountable! LOL

  8. Oooh I love the sound of the time tracker. I recently calculated that after work, housework and eating/sleeping I end up with about an hour to myself a day… crazy!

  9. I’m with Carol. It looks great, but when it comes to actually keeping track of time, forget it. And I would like to schedule that Viking Cruise!

  10. I bet I could learn a lot from “The Fringe Hours.” I’d love to start “making time” for things I’ve wanted to do for a while.

  11. I sitting here, as I type this, with a notepad to the side and a LIST of things To DO. No surprise most of them are for other people, so now I’m going to book a massage. Thanks for the reminder!

  12. You’re absolutely right about being an empty nester. I still miss having my son under my roof. But — now that he’s happily married and living across the country in California, I have a LOT more time. (Plus, I love visiting him and my DIL in California.) I’m going there on Saturday. (If the library where I work carries The Fringe Hours, I’m checking it out to read on the plane.)

  13. It wasn’t, really, until my daughter left home that I made time for me… and I am still adjusting. Working for myself means long hours and sometimes, still, I forget about me.

  14. I am totally on board with the whole philosophy of making time for what you love! I am in love with the designs of all of these books and cards!

  15. This seems to be a great book about productivity. I hope I can really manage my time more properly.

  16. Ooo!! I love love love this! I’m participating in a challenge and The Fringe Hours would fit it perfectly. I must find it.

  17. I always make me time as well. It’s essential for your spiritual and physical being. Looks like a lovely read for sure!

  18. It’s a beautiful product line! Day Spring was a client from my ‘other job’ and it’s fun to see the cross-over. I love anything that inspires us to create more joy in our life!

  19. It’s hard to prioritize you, but it’s so important. I function better as a mom and wife when I have me time.

  20. You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it,”. Love this quote and it’s so true! I keep adding things to my day and have been feeling overwhelmed lately because I have not had any “me” time. Guess it’s time I make some!

  21. Kimberly D says:

    I read The Fringe Hours last year and I really enjoyed it. On a separate note, isn’t being an empty nester awesome? I love it!

  22. I always try to make time for myself even for just a few minutes. That is a cute workbook.

  23. Manging time has always been a struggle for me. Fringe hours sounds like a book I need to add to my reading list.

  24. I always find me time! It makes me a better person because I don’t ever blame anybody for my needs which were not met!

  25. My children are all grown, so I have a tad more time for myself than I did years ago. Despite this “luxury,” I still find myself tied up with things that I tend to neglect myself. I would love to have this eBook and I will download it tomorrow.

  26. This looks like a really good boo. I am learning that caring for myself is so important to mental health.

  27. It’s so hard to make time for yourself when you are a mom. I am very interested in reading this book for that reason.

  28. To me I have always found it so hard to find time for myself. But with age, it is important that you take some time for yourself. Fringe Hours sounds like a wonderful read.

  29. I think I missed the giveaway, but this is definitely something I need to get. Thanks for posting this!

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