I boarded the plane at 2 a.m., as is customary in Kigali, Rwanda. This is the time when the hills that pepper the country are etched in fog, and the sky fills with a loneliness that whispers of the horrors that Rwanda has endured. I felt myself fill with dread. I shivered as I fervently willed the plane to be delayed. With each stop I felt heavier — as I ate the last of spicy African food, as I floated above the fields of Kenya. With each flight toward home, the food became plainer and my heart became heavier. I saw the roads ordered and manicured in front of me and felt trapped. I missed the dusty roads filled with African-garbed sashaying-hipped women with food piled high on their heads and babies on their backs.
Only a short three weeks before, life in San Diego had seemed ideal to me. Then I arrived in Rwanda to work with women who were victims of gender-based violence and for two weeks the women captivated me. Their beauty was staggering and their courage seemed to emanate from deep within their souls.
I decided to stay for an extra week to work with orphaned street boys. They had all come from horrible situations stemming from the social decay following the genocide in 1994. Boys had been abandoned to the streets or left in the forests of the Congo at ages as young as five years old. Despite all of their pain they were alive, filled with hope and joy, and within minutes of hearing their mischievous laughs and seeing their bright warm chocolate eyes, I was head over heels and hopelessly in love.
I returned to California at Thanksgiving time. I tearfully ate turkey and stuffing, but my head was filled with Africa. Thankfully, I was fortunate to have someone very supportive who helped me make a plan to go back. A few days after 2010 rang in, I was at the airport. With each step I took toward the gate, my guilt about leaving loved ones and my hunger to return to Rwanda did battle. By the time I landed in Kenya for my last stop and saw every color of the rainbow, I felt alive again.
For eight glorious months I felt so lucky to be able to look out the windows of Rwanda. I spent hours teaching, mentoring and counseling the boys. Every day, they made me understand the meaning of “time flies.” I rode buses with people who told me stories of the genocide while preparing for their college degrees. I held babies with malaria who would later die. I met women who had escaped the sexual violence of the Congo. I rode on the back of a motorcycle driven by a man who spoke five languages. The view was the most beautiful and biggest gift I have ever received.
So you are probably wondering, “Did this crazy girl get this Africa thing out of her system?” Ha! I wish! And so do my loved ones! As my friends get their kids ready for playmates, I am once again packing. Preparing, thanks to the gift of a generous donor in Colorado, to open an orphanage in Africa for street children. Excited to look out the windows to again to the most beautiful views I have ever seen.
Carol Rogero says
From a fragrance counter in Bloomingdales to the other side of the world, she found light and love in an area previously known as “the dark continent”. Gabrielle is a shining example of an
Ultimate Doer” who listened to her heart’s song!
magni lamet says
This story is so powerful. It is clear this woman has a huge heart and capacity to love. Just seeing her smile in conjunction with these gorgeous children makes my heart happy. Ms. Gosselin, thanks for inspiring me this Thursday!
Manuela says
You are amazing, girl!
Emily says
Beautiful Gab – the way you describe Rwanda puts me right there and I can completely understand why you are so driven to return. I wish the world was filled with more people like you who can open their hearts and souls and give of themselves so unselfishly. You are amazing my friend!
Cassondra Caesar says
Gabrielle is an inspiration to all of us. She is a special influence of a spiritual divinity on the minds of all mankind. “There are no greater givers than those who give themselves”. There is something to be said when a person can shop at a big name store one day and the next day find themselves living in the Congo for months. Her generosity and graciousness is felt by everyone she meets. If only there were more Gabrielle’s in the world! I hope she is keeping a diary that will someday be a best seller read by many.
Judy Guffey says
Ah…so now I know! You are such a beautiful person and friend. I’m sending this link to a friend who is helping to build preschools in southern Africa….also a woman of care and concern. I’m so happy to know you are out there doing things to make the world a better place for those who can’t help themselves. (…but selfishly…I’ll miss seeing you in Hawai’i.) How can I help? Send things for the orphanage or? I love you, Gab…keep up the wonderful work and your great spirit.
Diane Nakagawa says
I’m so happy and proud to have you as a friend. You must be truely happy!
Love and Aloha from Hawaii,
Diane Nakagawa
Ron Rosenblatt says
Gabrielle is a special woman with a heart of gold. She has found a cause that makes her alive. She will make a difference in Africa and change the lives of all the children she touches. I feel blessed that I have been a part of her life.
Geraldine says
When i met you I made a friend that i will always remember, my time in Rwanda with you was the best. We will meet again in this beautiful land.
Your roommate and friend
Geraldine
Kim LePiane says
Beautiful piece. Thank you for this window into another example of one living their passion and purpose. Blessings upon you and all you do Gabrielle.